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I need to get a life. In my semi-retired state, I have free time to research, read, and find tidbits of information to save AARP'ers money, when buying STUFF. If you are frugal minded, like to get discounts, like to shop, but live on a set amount of money, I would love to share my special savings finds with you. Do SHARE your tips, with us too. Lindy
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Lindy11 said:
on August 14, 2009 12:57 PM ET

Muck

My definition is: Getting rid of the nonsense, rubbish, toxic people.

Something is changing within me. I have taken a STAND, to which there is no turning back. Somehow, I had become the person friends & family CALL, when they are in crisis mode, want to vent, complain, whine etc.  My "I want to help" nature, logical thoughts, solutions, clicked with folks and they would THINK, let me call Lindy. 

The problem with this role is that many seems to take advantage of my nature and this WEARS me out.  For quite some time, I have endlessly tried to point out the good in their lives, voice other options, suggest they call with good thing to report in their lives too, etc etc. BUT the "woe is me" CALLS still prevailed.  I found myself actually putting the phone down and not listening for many minutes at a time and they were clueless.  I would not answer their calls immediately, but perhaps call back the next day, in hopes they would be of a calm state of mind.  (The rage may have been of a lesser degree, but they still raged.)

I even tried the silence tactic, but they were so intense, they did not notice I had not said a word in 10 minutes.  I realized the selfishness of their actions. They talked, raved, ranted non stop, without giving a crap. about me, my life, my concerns, my problems. 

After festering inside me for some time, I spoke up and you know what happened... They got so angry, that they stopped contacting me.  Two, so called friends, were so indignant at my setting boundaries with them, they ceased to exist in my life.   I had to ponder the thought, "Were they true friends?"   

Getting rid of all types of MUCK in our lives is lightening a heavy load...

  • Refreshing
  • Opening myself to new possibilities
  • Setting a boundary is powerful
  • Wisdom gaining
  • Enlightening
  • Tossed with a bit of guilt (You know how women and guilt are)
  • Missing them a bit, at least the good times.
  • Strength building decision

Muck in our lives is hampering and not a good thing.

Now what MUCK do you need to get rid of?????

 

 
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EmeraldQueen
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EmeraldQueen replied to carolg-wi's Post #1 :
on August 15, 2009 03:12 PM ET

...............Reminds me of the old saying that " There are givers and there are takers in life" ( or something to that effect).


Lindy11
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Lindy11 replied to carolg-wi's Post #1 :
on August 15, 2009 12:08 PM ET

Women have a generous giving nature, which some times can hurt us.

  I just spoke with a friend who is struggling.. Yet she gave two people money, who asked for help.  Doubt they will pay her back.  AND she is seriously behind on her own house payment and bills.

 

 

 


carolg-wi
Post #1
carolg-wi said:
on August 15, 2009 11:56 AM ET

I know what you're talking about!  I have a family member that does the same to me!  Add to that, this member always needs money.  I gets so upset but can't write her off....don't really know what to do.

Carol