Stories from Caregivers: Deanne from LOUISIANA
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Deanne
FROM LOUISIANA
I am 57 years old. 9 years ago I became one of the primary caregivers for my then 86 year old mom, Stella. She had dementia issues and my father was becoming exhausted-he was 85 so he could no longer be the sole caregiver. I began going to their home most mornings before I went to work, and then each afternoon after I got off work and then also on weekends. I helped manage medications, bathe my mother, talk her through tasks and just give my father rest. We did become eligible for in home paid help through long term care options but those hours were mostly used during the day while I was at work. There weren't enough hours to carry over into the nights and weekends. After two years, my mom passed away. I had lost 15 pounds, my father had become ill from the situation. The most challenging part was still maintaining my work and family life. I had no children at home and had a supportive husband but still felt I was not 100 % anywhere. The best part was part of the challenge. I was with my mother and we could enjoy some things together that were beautiful moments. My daughter also pitched in as she could and that allowed her to have special moments before losing her grandmother. Tips? Don't miss out. Caregiving is hard -find support for you. Do things for you. I still managed to play tennis once a week and it was invigorating to me. But also don't miss out on the opportunity to love your loved one before they are gone.
