Stories from Caregivers: Deborah from OHIO
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Deborah
FROM OHIO
I have been caring for my Mom for 2 years now she has had several outbursts, some quite embarrassing. the latest one was at the elevator outside her doctors office. As we were getting on the elevator she was still (upset) but we stopped at the next floor and an older woman entered. My Mom told the lady how sweet I am and how glad she was with me instead of my brother. She just bought him a car which I can't understand. At any rate she hasn't been making wise choices for her own care such as she lets her dog urinate and poop in the house instead of letting him out. I clean the carpet but she refuses to let him out so not it smells like an out house, the doctor told her to do so but she refuses to do so. I want to take the dog to another home but she has a fit. She has a bad heart and asthma chronic lung disease and a handful of other ailments it has been suggested by other professionals to keep her house clean. Mom would have a fit if she was thinking more clearly her house was always extremely clean. She is a very sweet person and people take advantage of her. We cook at my place she takes a shower then goes back to her home. What am I to do when she won't leave? I spend as much time as I can. My husband is sick too and I have a full time job. The best part is when she can remember all the fun when we were young. She would take me to the park and make Barbie clothes for me, they weren't perfect but I thought so. She loves her Grandchildren but she gets them all mixed up especially the great one's. My Dad died about 20 years ago and she hasn't been the same since. Her day consists of watching television and her meals when she remembers to eat, and sleeping of course, & the rest room several times a day due to all her meds. Mom was always very sharp but now she is just a shell of herself.
