Quiz: Test Your Pain-Free Sex IQ

Some positions may feel better than others. If you try one out and it doesn’t feel comfortable, stop and give your body a break. You can always try the position again later; find ways to alter it, such as propping yourself up with pillows; or just try an entirely new position later. But it’s important to listen to your body and not push through the pain.

Practice getting in and out of a new position with your partner with your clothes on and seeing how it feels before actually attempting it. This sex rehearsal can help you figure out what works best and is comfortable for both people before diving in fast when things get hot.

Talk to your partner and tell them what is going on. This can help you feel supported and open the door for you to work together to find ways to modify existing positions or try new ones that feel good for both of you.

If sex is painful, tell a medical professional during your next appointment. Explain to them that you are still interested in having sex and have them suggest positions that may feel comfortable given your situation. You could also ask them to refer you to a physical therapist or other medical professional who might be able to help.

Relaxed positions, such as spooning, can take the pressure off a person with erectile dysfunction, as they are more intimate and reduce the need for sustained physical exertion.

Using a pillow to raise and stabilize your pelvis may make penetration more comfortable for someone experiencing vaginal dryness.