FEATURE STORY
STORY BY DAVID HOCHMAN
ILLUSTRATIONS BY PATRICK LEGER
EDITOR’S NOTE: According to a 2024 report, while older Americans are happier than younger generations, even their happiness has dropped off since the first report a dozen years ago. AARP, as always, pledges to help you find meaning and joy in your life, and to that end we offer you Mary’s journey to happiness. Mary is fictitious only in the sense that she is a composite of older Americans, and all the advice dispensed on her journey is based on hard science and facts, a smart guide to easing your way in the days to come. —Bob Love, Editor in Chief
Chapter 1: Mary’s Struggle
MARY GONZALEZ-LEWIS, 60, SITS IN HER HOME ON A STORMY DAY, FEELING LIKE SO MANY OF US—FED UP WITH MISERABLE HEADLINES, WORRIED ABOUT WHAT’S COMING NEXT, AND WONDERING IF SHE’LL HAVE ENOUGH MONEY TO GET BY WITHOUT HAVING TO LEAN ON FAMILY OR WHITE-KNUCKLE IT ALONE. ISN’T THIS SUPPOSED TO BE “THE HAPPIEST TIME IN LIFE?"
IT’S NOT EASY BEING A PARENT, EVEN WITH A GROWNUP KID.
WORK STRESS ISN’T HELPING HER SENSE OF CONTENTMENT AND EASE.
AND NOW A HEALTH SCARE!
Chapter 2: Hungry for Change
MARY ARRIVES AT THE OFFICE OF HER COUSIN CANDACE, A BEHAVIORAL THERAPIST. SHE KNOWS HOW IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIPS ARE AND THAT EXPRESSING YOURSELF IS BETTER THAN SUFFERING IN SILENCE—EVEN THOUGH BEING VULNERABLE CAN BE REALLY CHALLENGING.
TIP:
Improving yourself by learning something new is one of the best ways to feel more vibrant and in control of life as you age, experts say.
Chapter 3: Mary’s Midlife Emergency Kit
A WEEK LATER, MARY VISITS WITH HER BEST FRIEND, ELSA, WHO IS EAGER TO HEAR ABOUT THE NEW HABITS OF MIND AND BEHAVIOR THAT MARY IS PUTTING INTO PLACE IN HER LIFE.
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People in a research study who took note of positive things on a daily 20-minute walk felt significantly happier after just one week.
THAT EVENING, MARY IS STILL EAGER TO GROW AND LEARN.
Chapter 4: Simple Fixes, Big Payoffs
TWO WEEKS HAVE PASSED, AND MARY IS EMBRACING HYGGE AT HOME: A FUZZY BLANKET, A FEW NEW CANDLES, SOME PRETTY CURTAINS ON THE WINDOWS. IT FEELS LIKE A NEW SPACE.
THOSE HAPPINESS TIPS REALLY WORK.
BACK AT THE DOCTOR’S OFFICE.
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Scientists have found that not only do acts of kindness boost happiness, they improve brain and heart health—and even increase your longevity.
WALKING HOME ...
Chapter 5: Seeking Financial and Health Advice
MARY, DETERMINED AND PROACTIVE, VISITS A FINANCIAL PLANNER FOR THE FIRST TIME IN HER LIFE. AND WHY NOT? RESEARCH SUGGESTS THAT PEOPLE TYPICALLY REGRET THE THINGS THEY DIDN’T DO MORE THAN THE THINGS THEY DID. NO FOMO FOR HER!
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Americans with a more detailed financial plan are about three times as likely to report greater happiness in money matters, including goal setting, debt, net worth and financial allies.
THE NEXT DAY AT DR. NEEDLEMAN’S WITH HEATHER.
Chapter 6: From Floundering to Flourishing
A FEW MONTHS INTO HER SELF-IMPROVEMENT JOURNEY, MARY REFLECTS ON THE SOURCES OF HER NEWFOUND WELL-BEING: NURTURING RELATIONSHIPS, EXPRESSING HERSELF GENUINELY, CONTRIBUTING TO THE WELL-BEING OF OTHERS, EMBRACING OPPORTUNITIES WITH A “YES,” EXPERIMENTING WITH NEW EXPERIENCES AND CHERISHING THE POSITIVE.
ALWAYS LOOKING FORWARD.
David Hochman is a longtime contributing editor for AARP The Magazine and AARP Bulletin. His bylines appear in The New York Times, Forbes, GQ, Food & Wine and many other publications. Patrick Leger is an illustrator and animation designer based in New York. His work has been published by The New Yorker, The Washington Post and The Wall Street Journal, Vanity Fair, HarperCollins and Random House.