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Arry and Murray Suid grew up in postwar Ohio, with parents who lived and preached lessons of thrift. The brothers worked to pay for college. Both wrote and taught for a living. You'd never guess they'd end up with such different lives.
Murray, 74, and his wife, Roberta, live modestly in Northern California, enjoying a comfortable retirement that speaks to their years of practicality and saving. Larry, 78, still works, having chosen to spend money on a lifetime of travel and memorable experiences. He has no savings outside of equity in his condo.
What accounts for such stark differences in the brothers' handling of money—habits that influenced the outcomes of their lives?
Researchers are still assembling the pieces of the puzzle of how we become who we are financially. But based on a swath of studies on the brain and behavior, scientists now believe that each of us has unique genetics and brain wiring that make us predisposed to be thrifty or extravagant—long before we even have money to spend. Does that mean it's game over, you're hardwired one way or the other? Not at all. Think about health: Your genes might put you at greater risk of heart disease, yet that doesn't mean a heart attack is inevitable.
How you choose to live is the true deciding factor. Similarly, a genetic propensity to spend can be held in check—by making conscious decisions to counter your natural inclinations. Not easy, but achievable. The lesson is to know your weaknesses.
In fact, a new science, neuroeconomics, is emerging to study just these things. A hybrid of psychology, economics and neuroscience, it offers the potential for a richer understand- ing of why some people are frugal and some are quite the opposite. If you're a spender, this knowledge can help you overcome habits that threaten to derail your financial security. And if you're a cheapskate, you might even learn to live it up a little.
The Marshmallow Tale
The initial clues that financial choices might have biological origins w ere first detected in preschoolers back in the 1960s. That's when psychologist Walter Mischel, who today is a pro- professor at Columbia University, began putting 4- and 5-year-olds in a room with a treat (a marshmallow, cookie, pretzel, etc.)— and a choice. If they could wait a few minutes, while the experimenter left the room, and not eat the treat in front of notion of waiting for the payoff sparked less brain activity the longer the payment was deferred. In other words, these were the spenders. For them, they would get an extra one. But if they chose to eat it immediately, they would forgo the bonus.
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