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In the fall, my younger daughter, Eleanor, will head off to college, and my husband, Jamie, and I will officially end the “schoolkids at home” stage of life.
In a recent “More Happier” episode of the Happier with Gretchen Rubin podcast, my cohost and sister, Elizabeth, and I discussed my search for a new metaphor for the “empty nest.”
This terminology matters, I think, because metaphors and vocabulary shape our outlook. Do I play the piano or practice the piano? Do I spend time or invest time? Is that room in my apartment an office, a study or a library? Words are important.
So, to rename this period of life, we considered possibilities such as “Free Bird,” “Open Waters,” “Free Rein” and “Better Bandwidth.”
In the end, I settled on this metaphor: “Open Door.”
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While “empty” has a bereft feel and signifies loss and absence, “open” suggests freedom and possibility.
Also, “Open Door” captures the idea that family members are coming and going, in an atmosphere of freedom, welcome and tenderness.
And this “open door” applies to our whole household. Jamie and I are now more free to travel, make plans at night and have adventures.
Our two daughters, Eliza and Eleanor, are also free to come and go. They’ll return for dinners, holidays, vacations and maybe for longer stints as well. Our door is always open!
We’re entering a new stage of family life, and I’m entering a new chapter myself.
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