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One of the biggest fears of someone living with or caring for an older person with dementia is that their loved one will get confused, wander off and potentially put themselves — and even others — in danger. No matter how careful you are, random circumstances happen and fears can become reality.
My friend's father is 79 years old with slow-progressing dementia. His wife needed to take her sister to a hospital emergency room one night, and since her husband can't be left alone, he was brought along. Upon arriving at the hospital, they parked directly in front of the emergency room entrance. Because of COVID-19, they left the husband in the passenger seat of the vehicle, with the car and its air conditioner running. It was more than 80 degrees just outside Las Vegas, where they were.
After a few minutes, a security officer approached the car and told my father's friend he needed to move the car immediately, which he did. Without a license or having driven in many years, he got into the driver's seat, drove away and ultimately went missing for three days.
Unfortunately, my father's friend was driving a car with no tracking capabilities; he didn't have a smartphone with GPS, either. What he did have was a state ID and $20 in his pocket but no credit cards. What we quickly learned from this experience is that there are a variety of steps loved ones can take — even from a distance — to assist the police in their search when an older person goes missing.
Secure a case number
First, call the police and ask for a detective. Make sure you explain that the missing person has dementia. Also describe their other major medical conditions. It's essential that the missing person be classified as “missing and at risk,” as opposed to just “missing,” in order for the police to immediately put resources into finding the person. Be sure to obtain a unique case number from the police.
"If the missing person has an established routine, those are the first locations you want to check. Likewise, if there are places, like a favorite coffee shop, that they used to go to, check those places as well,” says Nicole Anderson, a certified trauma professional and certified dementia specialist who serves as chief programs officer at Alzheimer's Nevada.
Provide a current photo
Be prepared to provide the authorities, and anyone you recruit to help locate the missing person, with a recent photo, a detailed description of what the person was last seen wearing, and the location where they went missing. If they're believed to be in a car, a description of the vehicle (including its license plate) should be provided.
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