5 Tips for College That Still Hold True

In some ways, it doesn't seem that long ago that my parents were dropping me off at college. But it's been over three decades since I moved into my first-year dorm, excited but nervous about what would lie ahead.

I have now had the bittersweet experience of having dropped off each of my three children at their first-year dorms. A lot has changed since I went to college, but there are still things that they can learn from me about how to get the most out of it.

1. Explore the Course Book

While there are some classes you need to take (either to fulfill a school requirement or to complete your major), almost every student has some flexibility in their schedule. Take an art class, a philosophy class or even a course in a subject you have no initial interest in but fits your schedule because you never know what you can learn.

Some of my favorite classes that stick with me now are those I took because I said, "Why not try it?"  I was an accounting major but the classes I remember most are modern art, medical ethics and political science. College is about more than just getting good grades. It is a chance to learn new things and broaden your mind, so embrace that opportunity.

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2. Keep Meeting People

Some people instantly hit it off with their roommates or people in their dorm. If that is not you, don't worry. There are plenty of people to meet through classes, clubs and other activities.

Don’t be afraid to start random conversations with other students. It may feel awkward at first, but awkward encounters are not lethal and can lead to real friendships with time. I met my lifelong best friend from a random conversation in the hallway on the way to the shared bathroom.

Even if you have a great set of friends, always be open to expanding your circle. If you see someone sitting alone in the dining hall, be that person that says, “Come join us.” The worst thing they will say is "no thank you," but they will appreciate the act of kindness.

3. Allow Yourself to Grow and Change

At the orientation for parents at my second daughter's college, the dean said something in his opening remarks that stuck with me: “If you get the same kid back in four years that you sent to us, then we haven't done our job correctly.” At first, his words saddened me. I adored this terrific, intelligent, sweet and intuitive person I was sending to college and didn't want her to change.