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Dating again after ending a 20-year marriage feels reminiscent of stepping onto campus for your first day of college: You can present the new you to the world, but the old you will likely seep back in as the days go by. Determined as you are to go vegetarian or embrace punk music, comfort foods like poutine soon come calling and you eventually tire of three-minute non-melodic rants.
For me, meeting someone new during COVID was as elusive as that white Thunderbird in American Graffiti, potential partners traveling parallel roads in separate worlds. I know many single people shifted to Zoom dates, but the one-on-one camera format felt way too close up. What if I saw my “date” checking the time? Or what if she saw the reflection in my glasses of the Bruins–Canadiens game I was simultaneously screening?
Online apps intimidated, too, a series of boxes to check like the growing list of ailments I’m now asked about before doctor appointments. Would my checking the box “love for the outdoors” occlude the reality that I can be lazy, leading to silent “what a fraud!” accusations from my “I live to hike” companion after shorter-than-expected jaunts with me? Would the “I love opera” descriptor cancel half of the eligible candidates? Would “huge Grateful Dead enthusiast” cancel pretty much everyone?
None of this sounded fun. On the plus side, I never had to compose a catchy username or sift through 10-year-old photos for my profile.
Instead of seeking out romance, I focused on spending more time with my kids and, I’m not kidding, playing tons of online bridge with my mother. Little did I know that when the world creaked ajar just enough to allow a return to my winter passion, alpine skiing, a white Thunderbird moment would manifest itself in the form of a chartreuse ski jacket and a powder-blue helmet. That final scene in the George Lucas classic, when Curt sees the white Thunderbird driving parallel to his plane’s flight path, became analogous to my chairlift ascents as I looked down to see a skier traversing beautifully below me. For three consecutive Fridays, after driving the two hours from my Seattle home to Washington State’s Crystal Mountain Resort, I’d spied the chartreuse-jacketed woman carving down the Green Valley, Upper Ferk’s and Upper Northway runs.
Fate or coincidence?
Skiing is at once an incredibly social and solitary pastime. Unlike most shared outdoor recreation, a weekend bike ride or golf excursion say, there’s no time for casual chatter when descending a snow-covered pitch, save some location hoots when tree skiing or, if you’re lucky, ripping through fresh deep powder. These location calls hardly make for intimate conversation, just quick callouts to say, “I’m over here.”
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