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'Fire Country' star Diane Farr, 55: 'We'll See How This Year Pans Out'

She can act, write and direct — and isn’t afraid to speak her mind


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Diane Farr, 55, isn’t afraid to speak out about Hollywood age disparities. The Numb3rs and Rescue Me actor wrote an Entertainment Weekly article in February calling out casting choices that lead to fewer roles for older actresses. “Age parity — hiring women who are the age a character is written, and within the same decade as their male costar — has yet to become a standard in film and TV,” she wrote.

Farr tells AARP that she was nervous about what reaction she might receive, but says, “The response was everything I could have hoped. People were saying, ‘Yes, I think this all the time. I think how annoying it is when someone looks like a parent and child, rather than lovers.’” 

In the CBS drama Fire Country, which returns Oct. 18 for Season 3, Farr is part of an onscreen romantic couple with actor Billy Burke, 57, playing married fire chiefs. We spoke with Farr about how she’s handling the physical demands of the job, how it felt to direct her first episode and how she challenges herself to prioritize having fun.

 This interview has been edited for length and clarity.

 Congratulations on your directorial debut [Fire Country episode "Welcome to the Cult" airs Nov. 1]. How did that go? 

Strangely, everyone says, “Oh, you know how to talk to actors, you’ll be fine.” And that was the thing I was the most worried about, because I’ve sat in judgment for 25 years. If the director doesn’t prepare, [actors are] treated like cattle, and our days get very long. I just didn’t want to waste anyone’s time. So, that was what I was most preoccupied with, and that went fine. I was prepared enough and nobody stayed late.

 You're also a writer [Farr has written two books, The Girl Code: The Secret Language of Single Women and Kissing Outside the Lines: A Story of Love and Race and Happily Ever After]. What do you feel more close to?

When I’m acting on a series, I really miss writing. When I’m home writing for four months, I miss the people and the activity of a set. They are very cleansing for me to do in tandem. The reason I’ve never pursued directing is because I write. And it wasn’t until I was in [show] prep that I realized that 30 years of writing books and for magazines and newspapers was the most helpful thing to me in directing. Because, at the end of the day, I’m there to advocate for the script. Yes, there’s a lens, yes it’s visual, but when you actually make your show it is about understanding that story and getting that story out. That was the part that was thrilling — that I realized my writing was going to help me more than maybe even being an actor for a couple of decades.

 How do you handle shooting Fire Country in Vancouver and commuting back and forth to Los Angeles? 

Vancouver is an easy flight up and down. And my kids being teenagers [son Beckett, 17, and twin daughters Sawyer and Coco, 16, with ex-husband Seung Yong Chung] — I was like, “OK, this is how you’re gonna practice flying internationally on your own. Everyone speaks English.”

 What do you like to do with your kids when they visit you in Canada?

My favorite thing to do here is wave running, jet skiing. Canada is so beautiful, and Vancouver — we think about rain — but it has all that joy of the Pacific Northwest also. Right along the Sea to Sky Highway, you can rent jet skis. We [rent] them almost every weekend in the summer. All of my kids love skiing. Honestly, if Vancouver wasn’t as magical as it was, they’d probably have zero interest in visiting Mom. But they’re so into the skiing and the outdoor summer sports — the hiking and the biking. They come for that. Normally, if I was home, I’d be getting less time [with them], so because we’re here, they’re doing the things with me. It ends up being maybe better quality time than I get in these years. That’s what I’m telling myself, anyway.

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Diane Farr as Sharon Leone and Billy Burke as Vince Leone in "Fire Country."
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How are you staying physically fit in your 50s? Is it harder to keep up with your kids, and play a firefighter on the show?  

Oh, it’s so much harder. I played a firefighter in Rescue Me at [ages] 32 to 35, and it was hard then. I was training five, six days a week, and my back was breaking. So coming back in [at] 52, I trained every single day.

 How did you train?

I was doing Pilates, because I feel like my 50s are about getting very fine-tuned. And it was such a backbreaking job. Part of the reason why I was so thankful to be the [fire] chief was I was not pulling those hoses. And then last year [on the show] I was “un-chiefed.” So there was a lot of hose pulling. We’ll see how this year pans out — if I can get back to a button-down shirt as opposed to the T-shirt.

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Are you doing anything different to take care of yourself as you age?

I am very fearful as a female. I grew up in the ’70s when osteoporosis was still such a big thing. We’d see all those little old ladies bent over. I catch myself all the time in a C-shape, and I’m like, Is this age? Is this exhaustion? Is this part of menopause? Because I don’t sleep as well, so I’m tired. I also bought a weighted vest, which is not for strength training but for bone density. It’s a very funny thing as a person who’s naturally slim — I have not spent my whole life watching my diet or my exercise. And now in my 50s, I absolutely am, because I feel like it’s going to define the next three decades of my life.

What advice would you give your younger self?

I would tell her: “If everything you want is going to work out, what’s one joyous thing you can do for yourself today?” I [am an] overthinker and a very hard worker. I don’t think it’s an accident that I get to work all the time. Play does not come naturally or easy for me. It literally says on my phone every day in my calendar: “What will you do for fun today?” 

What's your perspective on aging?

I am thinking about not the legacy that lives beyond me but the legacy while I’m still here. I know that there is a finite amount of time now, so I’m deciding how I want to do the third act.

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