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Ruth Westheimer, America’s most improbable “sexpert” and four-decade media star, who channeled her childhood Holocaust experiences to help people make intimate connections and combat loneliness, died July 12 in her New York home. She was 96.
The death was announced by Pierre Lehu, a publicist and her coauthor on several books. No cause of death was noted.
“Dr. Ruth,” as she was universally known, acquired multiple identities over her long life: German-born Holocaust survivor, lonely child in a Swiss orphanage, trained sniper in Jerusalem, academic in Paris, maid and grad student in New York, sex therapist with a busy private practice, and eventually “Grandma Freud,” sex adviser to the nation.
At the end of her life, Westheimer took on a new role: New York’s first loneliness ambassador, named by Gov. Kathy Hochul (at Westheimer’s own urging) to lead a campaign against the problem of widespread social isolation and loneliness, which worsened during COVID-19 pandemic lockdowns.
“I am deeply honored and promised the governor that I will work day and night to help New Yorkers feel less lonely!” Westheimer said in a statement after the announcement in November 2023.
“I don’t want to be known only as a sex therapist," she said at the time. "I want to be known as a therapist.”
But sex therapy is how Westheimer became an unforgettable cultural figure in the 1980s. That’s when she burst into Americans’ consciousness as a diminutive dynamo (she was 4 foot 7) of sex advice, delivered with candor warmed by folksy charm and good humor, on her call-in radio show, Sexually Speaking. That was followed by an equally popular TV version, The Dr. Ruth Show; then The All New Dr. Ruth Show; two teen advice shows, What's Up, Dr. Ruth? and You're on the Air with Dr. Ruth; plus Hebrew versions of her shows in Israel. (Besides English and Hebrew, she was fluent in German and French.)
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