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Robin Weigert Feels the Power of Love and Family in ‘We Were the Lucky Ones’

The ‘Deadwood’ star, who plays the family matriarch in the Hulu miniseries set during the Holocaust, shares lessons from the experience with AARP


spinner image Hadas Yaron holding on a baby while sitting next to Robin Weigert on a bed in We Were the Lucky Ones
Robin Weigert, right, and Hadas Yaron in "We Were the Lucky Ones."
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Robin Weigert, 54, felt the power of history, family and especially love while making the new Hulu miniseries We Were the Lucky Ones. The series is based on Georgia Hunter’s bestselling 2017 novel of the same name, which was inspired by the true Holocaust experiences of her family in Poland, where 90 percent of Jewish people were killed (including all but 300 of the 30,000 Jewish people in her family’s village of Radom). Weigert, who earned an Emmy nomination for her performance as Calamity Jane in Deadwood and played the motorcycle gang’s lawyer in Sons of Anarchy and Nicole Kidman’s therapist in Big Little Lies, portrays matriarch Nechuma Kurc, who endures the heartbreak of watching as, one by one, her five children flee or go missing as the war unfolds.

​Weigert spoke with AARP about how making We Were the Lucky Ones enriched and deepened her understanding of life and love, and her own Jewish heritage.

spinner image Lior Ashkenazi standing across a table from Robin Weigert in We Were the Lucky Ones
(Left to right) Lior Ashkenazi and Robin Weigert in "We Were the Lucky Ones."
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Family heirlooms opened up connections between cast members and Hunter

​Weigert may not have met Hunter’s relatives, but she says their presence was deeply felt during filming. “Georgia came with a lot of artifacts from her family,” says Weigert. “There were pictures and things to touch and relate to on the table. That had its own magic for us all, I think.” For her part, Weigert used a necklace in a Passover scene that belonged to her own mother’s mother. “There were little pieces that the cast brought in that were from our own stories, our own lives,” she says. “I think what you’re seeing is a bit of a tapestry of our families and Georgia’s.”

Weigert inhabited memories of her own ancestors to connect to the role

​Like the resonance from family heirlooms, the memories of her own ancestors brought depth and meaning to Weigert’s portrayal. “I had such a fondness for my maternal grandfather, who lived to be nearly 100,” she says. “His mother, Sophia, is someone I thought about when accessing Nechuma, because she was a Polish Jewish woman with four children, and she made beautiful things with her hands — doilies and other things that my grandfather had.”

spinner image Robin Weigert holding a bottle in a scene from Deadwood
Robin Weigert as Calamity Jane in "Deadwood."
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That sense of family took hold of the cast and remains even after filming

​Weigert and her fellow actors formed close bonds while making the series. “I remember having a very familial feeling with the cast of Deadwood as well,” she says. “I have a similar feeling that these people will always be in my life, even though we’re so far-flung – a third of the cast from Tel Aviv, a third from London, a third from Los Angeles. The chances of all of us being together in one place are going to be few and far between. But in this group chat that seems to be continuing, I can feel us all reaching for each other and dreaming of a time when we might be together again. It’s very beautiful.”

spinner image Robin Weigert and Amit Rahav looking at each other while embracing each other by the arms in We Were the Lucky Ones
(Left to right) Robin Weigert and Amit Rahav in "We Were the Lucky Ones."
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Weigert discovered the fierce love a mother possesses

​Weigert says that at the heart of Nechuma’s character is the joy – and pain – she experiences as a mother. “It’s revelatory for me because I have not had children,” says Weigert. “If you’re lucky, you get to play roles that can teach you something, and this gave me a tremendous gift, a path to feeling what it might be like to have poured myself into the project of mothering that way.”

The power of love showed itself to be indomitable — even amid trauma

​If Weigert had to pinpoint one lesson she took from the role, it would be “something about love that abides no matter what,” she says. “Because in my own life, certainly there have been challenges but not as existential as this. And the beauty of living into this role a bit and giving myself to her the way that I did was that she taught me some lessons in courage and that there’s an unchangeable, unwavering kind of love. I think that before playing this part, I felt love to be more of a fickle thing that depended upon circumstance.”

​Nechuma’s whole being, Weigert says, “was centered around pulling everyone back together and made me think about family so much — what is a family, and how it can survive diaspora, displacement, horror and loss. That the family is something that dwells within, as well as being a constellation of people around you that you hope to reunite with.”

​As Weigert was sitting at her end of the Passover table during a scene in the series, “just looking across at my [on-screen] husband and these gorgeous children, my own life seemed a bit pale by comparison,” she says. “I thought, This woman — my God, she made such a life!

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