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By this point in your life, you've got plenty of friends, from the mom you bonded with when your now-grown kids were in kindergarten to the convivial neighbor you met when you moved to your new condo. But how do you maximize the health-enhancing, stress-reducing, fun-increasing potential of your friendships?
Here, five simple ways to get more out of relationships with friends:
Make Your Friendships a Priority
Want to get more out of your friendships? Then make your friendships a bigger part of your life.
Well, duh, as your kids might say. Yet too often, we put friends behind marriage, children, work, exercise and sorting the recycling. When life gets busy, the first thing we offload is time with friends — ironic, since seeing friends is a key to relieving stress.
How to make friendships more of a priority? One tack: Build regular time with friends into your calendar, whether it's an every-Wednesday lunch with your best friend or a Saturday morning hike no matter what the weather. Trusting your friendships to routine, rather than impulse, makes it more likely you'll actually get together and reap the rewards of friendship on a consistent basis.
Don't Just Sit There, Do Something
We don't need research (though there's plenty of it) to tell us that women bond over talking. But you can get more out of your friendships if you pause the conversation and do something together, whether it's sign up for tennis lessons, go on a weekend antiquing trip or simply read the same book.
Sharing activities is positive for all kinds of relationships, research shows, including marriages and adult parent-child relationships as well as friendships. The reason: Doing something fun and novel together expands your repertoire of common experiences, lets you see each other in new ways, plus adds another dimension to the relationship.
What if it turns out you both hate tennis? Then you can bond over that.
