Blindfolds: A Classic Sex Accessory

When it comes to the popularity of sex toys, blindfolds take a back seat to vibrators. But if you're so inclined, blindfolds can deliver wonderful sexual enhancement — especially when worn by the woman.

Why? One reason involves differences in male and female erotic arousal. Sexologists agree that of the five senses, sight is what turns on a majority of men. Hence lingerie: Men see it and love it. (Men's preference for visuals also explains why pornography sites rank among their top Internet destinations.)

Sexologists also agree that the majority of women get most turned on by what they feel: cuddling, hot baths, sensual massage, spa treatments, warm fuzzy robes and the sensation of silk. When women wear blindfolds, they can usually focus more deeply on how exciting the loving touch of a partner feels. This likewise means they can enjoy it more.

As a result, lovemaking with the woman blindfolded can be a win-win. He sees her extra-aroused; she revels in being touched.

Another reason a blindfold can enhance sex is that it's new and adventurous. This novelty raises your levels of the brain chemical dopamine, which governs libido. Boost dopamine and sex feels more exciting. Of course, many couples have sex with their eyes closed, but there's a big emotional difference between voluntarily shutting one's eyes and being blindfolded.

Blindfolds are also a bit kinky. They're a classic element of domination and submission play (D/s), as well as bondage, discipline and sadomasochism (BDSM). Surveys suggest that only 1 to 2 percent of American couples are deep into these erotic variations — the sort depicted in Fifty Shades of Grey — but many people find themselves aroused by the light, playful kink of blindfolding.

Women are not the only ones who enjoy being blindfolded. Some men enjoy it, too, which is fine and normal, and can be just as sex-enhancing as the other way around. Have fun however you like. But deprived of sight, men can't see — and feel aroused by — their lovers' bodies, which is why most blindfold play involves men placing them over women's eyes.